Hi my friends,
In this week’s blog, my desire is to help you to feel less alone and realize that whatever you’re feeling during this time is completely normal. I’ll share some tools to help you cultivate a sense of mental resilience and strength from within, so you feel like you can manage anything that happens externally.
First, I believe that it’s incredibly important that we all let ourselves off the hook of getting through this life perfectly. Perfect doesn’t exist in regular life, and it certainly does not exist in 2022. Let yourself off the hook right now. You do not have to have it all together, but be happy, whole, and safe.
There is no right way to maneuver through turbulent times. We are all experiencing these emotions and circumstances through our very unique lenses. Try to release the need to compare yourself to someone else, and don’t feel like you have to be overly productive or perfect.
Today, I want to walk you through practices that have helped me stay in the present moment, and maintain a sense of peace, power, and control, even when life feels so chaotic and uncertain on the outside.
1. Have an aligned routine in place. I believe routine and aligned structure help to relieve anxiety. Choosing how we want to structure our day and our lives allows us a feeling of control. So ask yourself, “What are some practices of ‘normal’ life that make you feel good? Getting dressed? Making coffee? Going for a walk?” Do these things, even if they aren’t necessary or essential.
2. Create a peaceful space/environment. This might be a tough one, but even the smallest shifts can help alleviate stress and anxiety in our physical spaces. Decluttering, clearing out, and organizing can greatly reduce your sense of anxiety.
3. Establish a self-care routine. Begin to cultivate habits that help you feel good, feel better, and feel more at peace. Studies have shown that practicing mindfulness for at least 1% of your day can drastically change the other 99%. Notice where you can weave in small moment of mindfulness, of being fully present, of consciously breathing, of centering with yourself. I love this motto for my life: Pause, Breathe, Begin again.
4. Become aware of what your mind is saying to you. Start to get really familiar with your mind, it’s patterns, and the thoughts you repeatedly think. You can ask yourself:
- What am I thinking moment to moment?
- What am I saying to myself on a daily basis?
- Am I quick to react in a situation, or do I pause to skillfully respond?
5. Name your feelings when you’re feeling anxious. Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor says that it takes us 90 seconds for a feeling to fully move through your body and mind. How long it stays with you after that, is up to you, and how you choose to engage with it. It’s important to be cognizant and aware of feelings that arise, and trust that with all things, all feelings will pass, and are never final.
6. Check in with yourself regularly. Often times we do a great job of checking in on our loved ones, but seldom do we turn inward to check in with ourselves. Start a dialogue with yourself where you ask yourself important questions about your feelings, mental state, and mood. Think of this as creating a barometer for yourself. With this data, you can pivot and adjust accordingly to help yourself in any given day.
7. Know your trusted inner circle. It’s a huge sigh of relief when you clearly know the people that you can wholeheartedly rely on and trust (and remember that this is usually maybe one or two people). I often find that when I share too much vulnerable information with too many people, who aren’t necessarily trustworthy, my anxiety spikes. Know and honor the trustworthy ones, and lean on them when you need additional support.
8. Remember you are not alone. While isolation and separation can make us feel alone, know that no matter the distance, we are all connected. Our journeys may look different and feel different, but find comfort in knowing that each of us are here on this earth at this time for a reason and for a purpose, and you’re never alone.
Sending all my love to you as we venture into this new week!