I love the holidays so much. There is something inherently magical about Christmas time for me. With that being said, sometimes my enthusiasm for the holidays can build some unrealistic expectations for how my holidays should pan out. As you might have guessed, based on my past blogs, I am a dreamer and idealist, and so as you can imagine, I set my expectations high during the holiday season, dreaming of the perfect Christmassy things with the perfect people, in the most perfect surroundings. While there is nothing wrong with desiring the best, the problem lies when we let the idea of the “perfectness” get in the way of what’s really happening. So this year, with the intention for my holidays to be as magical as possible, I am setting the intention to let go of my expectations. This week I want to share with you how I plan to do this, in hopes that it may benefit you for the holiday you celebrate, but really we can use this any time of year. As Shakespeare said, “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”
1. Set intentions. I am intending (by stating it here for all to read), to release my expectations of how I think the holidays should be. Intentions are powerful. The thoughts we think are powerful, and so by setting an intention you are automatically taking control of your holiday’s fate. In addition to the surrendering of all expectations, I intend to be in gratitude and find the joy, even in times of chaos.
2. Be in the moment. The holidays are a busy time for everyone. There is so much to do, so many people to see, it can feel very crazy and unmanageable. The best way I know how to manage this is to be present. Do one thing at a time, give your attention to the task, the person, the situation, at hand, and release the rest. We live fast paced lives and let’s face it we can often feel like time just passes us by especially during this precious time of year. So I say right here and now, take back time by cherishing each moment.
3. Accept and allow. Try not to micromanage each situation and make it the ideal image that you have in your head. Allow each moment to unfold naturally, having no shoulds. If things aren’t going the way that you would like for them to, stop and ask yourself, “why is this bothering me” instead of automatically feeling there is something wrong with the situation. Be in confidence and faith that things are just as they should be.
4. Take time for yourself. Spend time in gratitude and reflection on what the holidays mean to you. Allow yourself the time and space to feel the feelings that the holidays bring up for you, notice your emotions, and remember that you can create anything that you desire by starting from the inside out.
These will be my “go to” tips this holiday season, and I hope I have given you some thoughts here for you to be in joy, happiness, and peace now and throughout the new year! Remember you are complete, you are enough and you are loved- I am in gratitude for you always.
I would love to hear your “holiday expectation releasers” in the comments section below!